You might be thinking that women are just trying to be courteous. You'd be right. But if we are apologizing all the time we make ourselves out to be wrong, or stupid, clumsy, at fault, or dimwitted. These are all putdowns. What we need is confidence and good feelings about ourselves, not putdowns. Such expressions of "fault" also put us in the subordinate or vulnerable position, not the dominant or powerful position we need if we are to be listened to.
