While we can understand Glennon’s struggle, our sympathy must submit to our belief in a God who is real and authoritative, and who therefore defines sin, relationships, proper sexuality, and marriage. These definitions all matter, and they matter much more than a person’s seeming happiness or authenticity. What’s more, only by submitting to the truth as God defines it can we—and those we love—be truly and eternally happy. But saying as much is hard.

