Women do not get a say in this. If a man chooses his wife in Heaven, then that is where she will spend eternity. Islam, as you might have realized, is an extremely gendered religion. Women are only mentioned in relation to men. To illustrate, a dog is not communicated to directly by a trainer. The trainer speaks to the owner and informs them how to treat the dog. This is the relationship between Allah (the trainer) and women (the dogs).
