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In short, emotions are tunnels. If you go all the way through them, you get to the light at the end. Exhaustion happens when we get stuck in an emotion.
Just Because You’ve Dealt with the Stressor Doesn’t Mean You’ve Dealt with the Stress Itself
Wellness is not a state of being, but a state of action.
What are the benefits of continuing? What are the benefits of stopping? What are the costs of continuing? What are the costs of stopping?
“She was warned. She was given an explanation. Nevertheless, she persisted.”
In fact, fear of compassion for self is linked to fear of compassion from others. That means that somewhere inside them, they believe that if they’re isolated, that’s good; isolation protects others from their real, core badness.
Once you stop reopening wounds you’ve been inflicting on yourself for years, they finally begin to heal.
Especially among people with high self-criticism and shame, turning toward your internal experience with kindness and compassion is more healing than positive reappraisal.17
“Happiness is predicated on ‘happenings,’ on what’s occurring, on whether your life is going right, and whether all is well. Joy arises from an internal clarity about our purpose.”
Trust your body. Be kind to yourself. You are enough, just as you are right now. Your joy matters.
Which is to say, you don’t have to wait for the world to be better before you make your life better—and by making your life better, you make the world better.
