The internal question we ask of our spouses is, Am I chosen? And being chosen is revealed through presence and access: Do I have access to my spouse’s heart? Access to their story? Do they have curiosity about my heart? About my story? And our partners are asking the same of us. They are impacted when we look at our phones more than their eyes when we’re in a room together. When we don’t offer emotional presence by paying attention to their words, facial expressions, and indicators of what they’re feeling. When we don’t look closer with interest.
