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December 11 - December 23, 2024
Similarly, if you believe that you have nobody to call in an emergency or to water your plants when you go on vacation, you might feel particularly adrift and disconnected.
Shame is the thread that connects them both, and shame is what I’ve always tried to help people overcome.
If you are not prioritizing rest, if you are not investing in your body, you likely won’t have the interest or stamina to engage with other people, and interacting with other people is the only way to create and maintain meaningful connections.
not sleep...or exercising ... I gotta fibd the plot agaib
Frequently reaching climax on your own removes one of the most important incentives for finding a sexual partner.
okay girl
you run into a situation where difficulties make it impossible for you to succeed, don’t throw your hands up and cry uncle. Scan your surroundings. Find a solution. Optimists are always more attractive than pessimists. Once you discover a work-around, squeeze your lemon hard and never look back.
Don’t be the person who only complains.
And if someone clearly doesn’t want to be friends with you, no matter the reason, just move on.
Standing ovation ensues
They may have zero experience with loss, and they’re certainly not mind readers.
Unless you tell people how they can show up for you, how should they know?
This kind of directness is important at all times in your life, and that includes times of great sadness.
How lonely you feel depends on how you perceive your circumstances. If you think you are powerless, then you are likely going to feel worse.
fake a smile until a real smile emerges.
Touch is powerful. Without saying a word, it can help us feel less alone.
Keep your ego in check. Don’t let it cause any more distance and pain.
Be a good listener.
I should have leaned on others more frequently than I did.
Relationships frequently suffer when couples stop doing stuff together.
Don’t accept a bad situation.
There’s more to life than wallowing in misery.
He wasn’t the right partner for me, and he would never become the right partner, even if we had spent eternity side by side.
Family members who are deceased can still be part of your life. Just because they are not physically present doesn’t mean their presence can’t make you feel less alone.
Everyone is worthy of close relationships.
Exchanging confidences without fear of judgment is how friendships deepen.
Every relationship requires compromise if it’s going to last.
Solid connections are built on honesty and transparency.
Until then, I want you to take your time and protect your heart.
