The Tibetan Book of the Dead: The Great Liberation Through Hearing In The Bardo (Shambhala Classics)

by Padmasambhava

often find it extremely difficult to relate to it. Nobody tells us the final truth. It is such a terrible rejection, a fundamental rejection of love, that nobody is really willing to help a dying person’s state of mind. It seems necessary, unless the dying person is in a coma or cannot communicate, that he should be told he is dying. It may be difficult to actually take such a step, but if one is a friend or a husband or wife, then this is the greatest opportunity of really communicating trust. It is a delightful situation, that at last somebody really cares about you, somebody is not playing a game of hypocrisy, is not going to tell you a lie in order to please you, which is what has been happening throughout your whole life. This comes down to the ultimate truth, it is fundamental trust, which is extremely beautiful. We should really try to generate that principle. Actually relating with the dying person is very important, telling him that death is not a myth at that point, but that it is actually happening. “It is actually happening, but we are your friends, therefore we are watching your death. We know that you are dying and you know that you are dying, we are really meeting together at this point.” That is the finest and best demonstration of friendship and communication, it presents tremendously rich inspiration to the dying person. You should be able to relate with his bodily situation, and detect the subtle deterioration in his physical senses, sense of communicati...