Kink, to me, is about the deviations that arise around power and pleasure; kink is anything that ruptures the seemingly impervious actions, rules, and choreographies that stabilize power—and the pleasure that comes from this rupture. It doesn’t have to only be about sexual power and pleasure, but the sexual is often the site where both power and pleasure feel the most potently echoic of each other. (Sometimes I think heterosexuality is the kinkiest thing there is because it’s always about how the most normie power represses pleasure, and the pleasure is in the repression itself. Ugh!)
