To keep myself from fuming, I had to remind myself that my mom had grown up in a different time. Her own mother was abusive and paranoid, her own cheeks more familiar with vindictive slaps than soft kisses. So who, then, could possibly blame her for doing the same every now and then?
i’m not really sure if this is an immigrant child trope, or just standard for children— but boy, do i relate to justifying + rationalizing the behavior of your parents, because of the neglect or abuse that they themselves have experienced.
