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I’ve always hated that phrase. Half the time, whenever someone says It’s not personal, it feels like a get-out-of-jail-free card. It’s a way to refuse responsibility for hurting someone.
But despite the suspicions in the back of my mind, I was still too naive to understand that someone saying they’ve changed—so confidently, always so sure—often means that they are certain they can convince you of their growth. And perhaps they can, for a time. But real, meaningful change needs no announcement. Real change speaks for itself.
Perhaps this is why we forgive people who don’t deserve it: nostalgia is a hell of a drug. It blurred all the bad, brightened the scant good, and told you pretty lies.
You learn things you wished you never did: Dred Scott v. Sandford. The Chinese Exclusion Act. The existence of animal crush videos, resulting in the Animal Crush Video Prohibition Act of 2010.
The first two I'd think would be standard in a US history class in high school, theoretically... also ugh, did not know but not surprised about the third
Drifting with no purpose felt easier: drifting meant no expectation, and thus, no disappointment.
“But this is marriage we’re talking about! What happens if you meet someone you actually want to marry? How
Love—maybe love simply sees you in a room when no one else does. Love was a pat on the head at the end of a hard day, a kind word of acknowledgment in a world so damn hard to live in. Love was refuge. Love was comfort. Love was ease. And, sometimes, that was enough to hold on to.