IF SHE IS IN STAGE TWO (UNCERTAINTY) and he behaves as if he is in stage three, four, or five, then her reaction might be, How can he want me so much? He doesn’t even know me. When he really gets to know me he will leave me. I don’t want to be hurt. I don’t want to get my hopes up. He thinks I am so perfect and I’m not. I can’t trust his instincts.