LETTING GO OF CONTROL • Healthy control means ordering our lives in responsible ways—for example, by maintaining control of a car or our health. Neurotic control means acting on the compulsive need to make everything and everyone comply with our wishes. Control is what we decided to seek when we noticed the implacable givens of our existence and felt helpless in the face of them. We were not yet able to say, “I will stay with this predicament and see what it has to offer me. I notice I seem to get stronger this way.” Saying yes to our experience in this mindful way leads to empowerment. Can
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