But I wanted to do something with those regrets, hopefully something that matters, something that might be helpful, redemptive even—for me, yes, but also possibly for you. I’ve learned that our pains, whether self-induced or caused by others or both, can be redeeming if they’re harnessed to help others find healing. In her final novel, Villette, Charlotte Brontē wrote, “I doubt if I have made the best use of all my calamities.”1 So, this is my attempt to put my regrets to good use. Because although I wasn’t for a long time, I’m getting better. And let me be crystal clear, by “getting better,”
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