Whether a Demeter woman fosters dependency or, on the contrary, creates a sense of security in which the other person can grow and thrive, depends on whether she herself has a sense of bountifulness or scarcity. If she is afraid that she will lose the other person or that her “child” is “not good enough,” she may become possessive, controlling, and constricting. This insecurity makes her into a hovering or a smothering mother.
