If a woman lets others decide what is important to her, then she will live out her parents’ expectations and will conform to her social class assumptions of what she should do. In her life, which goddess will be honored will be determined by others. If a woman decides for herself “which goddess gets the golden apple,” basing that decision on the strength of the goddess in her, then whatever she decides will be meaningful to her. It may or may not be supported by her family and culture, but it will feel authentic.
