Of those surveyed who had experienced a miscarriage, 37 percent felt they had lost a child, 47 percent felt guilty, 41 percent felt they had done something wrong, 41 percent felt alone, 28 percent felt ashamed. If no one talks about any of these experiences—either in a medical or a personal setting—the gaps in knowledge get filled with googling (oh, the googling), message boards, and online information of varying quality. Zucker refers to it as the “strident trifecta” of miscarriage—silence, stigma, and shame.7
