I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

by Rebecca Little

“From a medical perspective, miscarriage and abortion are the same, even if the language we use and the emotions associated with the two experiences are not. One key difference: Talking about your miscarriage won’t get you death threats.”

Almost all the people we interviewed for this book told us they believed they’d done something to cause the unwanted end of their wanted pregnancies.

It’s just not your fault.

The one thing miscarriages have in common is how common they are and how that fact makes exactly zero people feel better when it happens to them.

“I had a lot of guilt around my grief, and I didn’t know what to do with it,”

“This was for the best,” “Nature took care of it,” “At least you know you can get pregnant,” “At least it was early on,” and “You can try again.” “I got a lot of ‘Why are you so sad? So many people have it worse,’”