The Power of a Praying Wife

by Stormie Omartian

“Lord, I pray for an end to this conflict and a breaking of the hold strife has on us. Take away the hurt and the armor we’ve put up to protect ourselves. Lift us out of the pit of unforgiveness. Speak through us so that our words reflect Your love, peace, and reconciliation. Tear down this wall between us and teach us how to walk through it. Enable us to rise up from this paralysis and move into the healing and wholeness You have for us.”

“Lord, nothing in me wants to pray for this man. I confess my anger, hurt, unforgiveness, disappointment, resentment, and hardness of heart toward him. Forgive me and create in me a clean heart and right spirit before You. Give me a new, positive, joyful, loving, forgiving attitude toward him. Where he has erred, reveal it to him and convict his heart about it. Lead him through the paths of repentance and deliverance. Help me not to hold myself apart from him emotionally, mentally, or physically because of unforgiveness. Where either of us needs to ask forgiveness of the other, help us to do so. If there is something I’m not seeing that is adding to this problem, reveal it to me and help me to understand it. Remove any wedge of confusion that has created misunderstanding or miscommunication. Where there is behavior that needs to change in either of us, I pray You would enable that change to happen. As much as I want to hang on to my anger toward him because I feel it is justified, I want to do what You want. I release all those feelings to You. Give me a renewed sense of love for him and words to heal this situation.”

The Lord will always give us words to say, and show us when to say them if we ask Him. Timing is everything.

“A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back” (Proverbs 29:11).

Our goal must not be to get our husbands to do what we want, but rather to release them to God so He can get them to do what He wants.

When we live by the power of God rather than our flesh, we don’t have to strive for power with our words.

You’ll be amazed at how much power your words have when you pray before you speak them.

you will still be expected to see that the heart of your home is a peaceful sanctuary—a source of contentment, acceptance, rejuvenation, nurturing, rest, and love for your family. On top of this, you will also be expected to be sexually appealing, a good cook, a great mother, and physically, emotionally, and spiritually fit.

Part of making a house a home is allowing your husband to be the head so you can be the heart.

Accept your husband the way he is and pray for him to grow. Then when change happens, it will be because God has worked it in him and it will be lasting. “My soul, wait silently for God alone, for my expectation is from Him” (Psalm 62:5). Your greatest expectations must be from God, not your husband.

“Lord, I confess I do not esteem my husband the way Your Word says to. There is a wall in my heart that I know was erected as a protection against being hurt. But I am ready to let it come down so that my heart can heal. I confess the times I have shown a lack of respect for him. I confess my disrespectful attitude and words as sin against You. Show me how to dismantle this barrier over my emotions that keeps me from having the unconditional love You want me to have. Tear down the wall of hardness around my heart and show me how to respect my husband the way You want me to. Give me Your heart for him, Lord, and help me to see him the way You see him.”

Love is diminished if we dwell on the negatives. Love grows if we focus on the positive.

Neither extreme promotes happiness and fulfillment. Only a perfect balance between the two, which God can help a man find, will ever bring that quality of life.

You can pray for his eyes to be opened to see what God wants him to do, and where God is leading. Your prayers can help him feel appreciated and encouraged enough to recognize he has worth no matter what he does. You can assure him that God has uniquely gifted him with ability and talent and has something good ahead for him. Then pray for God to reveal it and open a door of opportunity which no man can shut. Your prayers can pave a path for him.

Sex between a husband and wife is God’s idea. Unless we’re fasting and praying for weeks at a time, or are experiencing physical infirmity or separation, there is no excuse not to engage in it regularly.

your husband desires sex more frequently and you are the one keeping it from happening, pray for God to help you change your ways.

Only prayer, a submitted heart, and the transforming power of the Holy Spirit can work those kinds of miracles.

If he and I were one, then an assault on his mind was an assault on me as well.

The more he saw my prayers answered, the more he realized where the lies were coming from and the less willing he was to believe them.

A wife can pray that her husband will discern the lies and hear instead words like “hope,” “prosperity,” “possibility,” “success,” and “new beginning,” and know that they’re from God.

Whatever God has called your husband to be or do, He has also called you to support it and be a part of it, if in no other way than to pray, encourage, and help in whatever way possible.

God has called you to something, too. But it will fit in with whatever your husband’s calling is. It will not be in conflict with it. God is not the author of confusion, strife, or unworkable situations.

The opposite of a wise man is a fool. The Bible describes a fool as someone who only “trusts in his own heart” (Proverbs 28:26). He despises wisdom (Proverbs 23:9). He only wants to talk and doesn’t want to listen (Proverbs 18:2). In other words, you can’t tell him anything. He is quarrelsome (Proverbs 20:3), and he rages and is arrogant when you try to reason with him (Proverbs 14:16). A fool is someone who is incapable of weighing thoroughly the consequences of his actions. As a result, he doesn’t make wise choices. If you have a husband like that, pray for him to have wisdom.

So much of our lives is affected by decisions our husbands make. We are wise to pray that they make good ones.

But as we prayed through every rough spot, we found our faith growing and our walk with God deepening. And when our attitudes were right, so did our love for one another.

Integrity happens in the heart. Therefore, being a man of integrity is something your husband must choose to do on his own. But you can prayerfully help him

A virtuous wife, the Bible says, has a husband who is respected.

I’ve found, however, that if a wife wants her husband’s priorities to be in that kind of order, she has to make sure hers are in that order as well.

When it comes to your husband, it’s not so much a matter of how much time you take, but that you do take time to make him feel like he is a priority.

Priorities have to do with the position in the heart.

If you want your husband to love you more, you need to love him more.

Pray for your husband to always put God first, you second, and children third.