We should not go to a brother who has offended us until we have decided to forgive him from our hearts—no matter how he responds to us. We need to get rid of any feelings of animosity toward him before approaching him. If we don’t, we will probably react out of these negative feelings and hurt him, not heal him.
Important key. This also explains how once we've resolved it in our hearts we feel it is done. Though we have not yet approached them we feel a sense of peace. Taking the outward step of reconciliation is also necessary and in my opinion more humbling...the more the better.
