Diana: In Pursuit of Love

by Andrew Morton

Not to be outdone, Diana’s former butler Paul Burrell – whose own book Diana’s sons called a ‘cold and overt’ betrayal – joined the commentary.

while Lord Romsey and his wife Penny, who had spent a wasted hour trying to persuade the Prince not to propose to Lady Diana Spencer when he asked for their counsel during a visit to their home of Broadlands, dubbed her ‘that madwoman’.

Yes, it’s wrong. But I’m not sure if I like the word “rationalized” given the circumstances. I would say with absolute confidence that if Charles showed her true love and certainly don’t cheat plus accuse her of madness she would not be driven to infidelity. Who exactly is that she should be faithful to anyway?

I know it hard or close to impossible but given the circumstances IMO she should’ve stayed put. She was de facto the future Queen and the mother of the Heir, the King Mother. Charles said many times that he wouldn’t have divorced her. He couldn’t. His mother wouldn’t let and publicly it would’ve been a disaster. She was already having affairs. That wasn’t dangerous considering what Charles was doing. As far as separate quarters and all that so what? Just say you don’t care. For publicity they have to be together. Whatever. As she said, the main consideration were her children. That would’ve been the best for them. I think that Charles is an immature little baby who is a fool. Eventually he would’ve come around to the fact that he had no choice and that that home wrecker Camilla was a dead end.

She had seen the Queen, who sympathized, knew what was going on but had nothing to offer.

Camilla is clearly a home wrecker. She ruined her own family and Diana’s. She clearly didn’t care about her husband or her kids for that matter. She deserves Charles because he betrayed his own friend, her husband. But, if Camilla actually cared about him she would care about his family and children. But, she is selfish. At the end for the day what does she have? Diana is still the mother of Charles’ children and the heir to the throne. With Diana Charles would have nothing good in his life. No children, no family, and no heir. Camilla is the mistress who is a divorcee. Everybody knows this whether they say it or not. What an embarrassment she is to the whole monarchy. I honestly don’t understand how people look at her without throwing up from disgust. I probably don’t have a pulse on the matter because I really don’t get how Diana’s daughters-in-law, sons, and grandchildren have a relationship with this evil woman who has violently usurped her place as the mainstay of her own house.

‘I cannot imagine anyone in their right mind leaving you for Camilla. Such a prospect never entered our heads,’ he wrote.

This doesn’t sit well with me. I know she was driven to this behavior because of Charles’. But, to do it with a married man is another matter. Because I’m sympathetic to Diana plight I’m willing entertain the benefit of doubt. For example, I don’t know the details of Hoare’s marriage. Maybe it was broken. Maybe his wife betrayed him. But on the face of things, in this case, Diana is a home wrecker. How is she different then Camilla? Reading this chapter along reinforces this.

a standpoint that reinforced the headlines that were describing Diana as a ‘homewrecker’ and a ‘bored, manipulative and selfish princess’.

Seriously, he said that? OMG! I’m at a loss for words. I’m always surprised when I see that such people exist. Such arrogance wrapped in haughtiness is just unimaginable if it wasn’t real. This is why he insisted that people call him Sir even if they were going out with him. He’s so important in his eyes that unthinkable that someone should call him by his first name.

‘He has such a struggle that he cannot be taken seriously, he gets really hurt by it and I now understand.’

Call me sir, feel that you’ve accomplished you purpose in life by loving me, and make sure to install my wooden toilet seat in your bathroom before you give me a sandwich that is not any thicker then two inches. It’s a miracle that the marriage lasted that long.

‘precious and extravagant’.

It seems like everybody and their brother has written memoirs about their time with her. Lol

‘I feel sorry for Camilla,’ she said. ‘The woman has lost almost everything in life and gained … what, exactly?’

In other words the questions really is this; was it worth it to throw away her family especially her kids to be known an the home wrecker mistress to be with a man who is defined by his failed marriage? And after all that Diana remains the mother of the future King.

Did William react in the same way when his father admitted to adultery in an interview in 1994? Does he talk to the home wrecker that is now sitting in his mother’s chair?

In fairness to Bashir, even though the methods he used to bring Diana in front of the camera were highly questionable, if not duplicitous, it was Diana who bore full responsibility for the way she answered his questions. He did not put words in her mouth.

Agreed. It’s hard to believe that she was forced into saying anything. Just watch the interview.

Her emotions like so many of us got the best of her. Therefore, it’s hard to judge. However, once you are the King mother, Princess of Wales it’s almost impossible to extricate yourself no matter what you do. Accept your fate. You got a husband that doesn’t love you. But, you have children to bring up. They are more important. The shrewd thing to do is stay. Let Charles have his mistress. You are the future Queen and the foundation of the House of Windsor. The people love you. You have more power then you realize. Instead, the boys were left without a mother and the people without their Queen. Now a home wrecker and imposter sits on your throne. It’s sad.

But, in the end she doesn’t succeed does she? It’s not sacrificing your life to be a mother to your children. Unfortunately, not everything goes one’s way. See the previous note. Actually, counterintuitively, I think she would been happier because, like it or not, her identify was already defined. HRH Princess of Wales. In addition, she would be able to do all her work anyway.

‘She had something I had only ever seen before – from Nelson Mandela – a kind of aura that made people want to be with her, and a completely natural, straight-from-the-heart sense of how to bring hope to those who seem to us to have little to live for.’

He literally sounds like such an asshole.

She had often spoken about her sense of destiny or her ‘spiritual pathway’, as she called it, seeing hers as a life ordained to help the sick, the disenfranchised and the dispossessed.

Her easy charm, empathy and approachability, which were once seen as daring and revolutionary, are now viewed as an essential royal quality, especially with regard to her boys and the woman who would have been her daughter-in-law, Catherine Middleton.

By a supreme and tragic irony, the family that cast her out just as she was washing her hands of them were now obliged to repossess her.

‘Poor Lilibet and Charles have done everything they can to get rid of the wretched girl, but she just won’t go.’

This is what both sides failed to understand. Once the boys were born they were stuck with each other forever. Diana was and always will be HRH The Queen by virtue of the fact that she is the link to the succession. She can’t leave and they can’t cast her out. Who knows God’s ways? There’s reason to say that it doesn’t really matter what happened. Even Elizabeth herself is was Queen by virtue of a preceding abdication. But, it wouldn’t be surprising…you know what? I’m not going to suggest it. Let’s leave at Diana’s own premonition that she knew that she was destined for a special roll.

Of course you are to blame. This entire story is a lesson in how a husband is supposed to act in the diametric opposite way of you. She loved you. One can argue that even in the end she loved you because Diana was person who loved and couldn’t understand why you wouldn’t love her back. All you had to do is be a proper husband: love, cherish, support, and be together with her. But, you just couldn’t do it. You would’ve had a proper wife, household, and family. Instead, she is dead, your mistress is sitting in her seat, and your family is pretending they like you so that they don’t rock the boat of the monarchy. You are a sad excuse for a father, grandfather, and a human being. The proof to this is irrefutable. What will your legacy be? Nothing other then that you failed the great HRH Diana. Forget the legacy. Right now everybody hates you and you’re home wrecker wife. The only thing you can do is ask for public forgiveness, admit your stupidly, humble yourself in front of your family, give her the proper posthumous honor that she deserves.

You do nothing, right? Aren’t you separated and divorced? Alas, the truth, at least momentarily, hits like a ton bricks. We all know that it’s on you bud. You knew it too. That’s why, despite all of your machinations, you had no choice but to arrange a funeral that was proper for her. You get one credit point for not being obstinate.

Deep down inside of his subconscious he knew her worth and impact. This is what he was jealous of in the beginning. But, now that she was gone he felt that it was too much to carry. I know this is psychological speculation. But, as I’m reading this with a lump in my throat I don’t feel like giving him a break.

IMO, because in this moment of truth he identified 100% with her as being a part of the family he was personally embarrassed if she would appear in public in any manner that would compromise the dignity of the Monarchy that she embodied and represented. Being peculiar in such an acute moment of sadness is not strange at all. A person isn’t in their right mind.

He didn’t save the monarchy. Diana transformed it unless you want to give him credit for being her in in the first place.

‘Charles was like a wet weekend at Balmoral,’ commented one of the Queen’s staff, perhaps a little unkindly. ‘He was poleaxed with guilt, and any suggestion that he was taking charge is ridiculous.’

As he should’ve because the moment was too big to hide the truth.

As already mentioned, however, when the Princess’s coffin arrived at the Chapel Royal it was treated with the reverence and dignity befitting the mother of the future king.

Like so many others at the centre of this emotional vortex, she had not appreciated the sheer scale of the public response to the Princess’s death.

‘I have never been in such a nightmarish place in my life,’ recalled Charles Spencer of that long walk.

But while the Queen praised Diana’s maternal devotion, kindness, warmth and sense of humour, the feeling remained that it was too little, too late.

For the last few years of her life, she had, without truly acknowledging it, achieved her ambition. She had reached out, over the heads of the Palace and the mass media, and made a genuine connection with the people. In their turn, they had witnessed and watched her journey of self-discovery, seeing in her victories and defeats, her strengths and frailties, her loves and losses, something of their own lives.

‘On behalf of your mother and sisters, I pledge that we, your blood family, will do all we can to continue the imaginative and loving way in which you were steering these two exceptional young men, so that their souls are not simply immersed by duty and tradition, but can sing openly as you planned.’

He shouldn’t have said no and they should’ve done it anyway. Accepting would’ve had the opposite effect. It would’ve validated what he said in his speech. Why do they need his permission anyway?

Earl Spencer wrote to the Fund, calling for it to be wound up at the earliest opportunity.

‘Their motive is clear,’ noted Vivienne Parry. ‘The Fund has filled a media vacuum left by her death and the quicker we are shut down, the quicker she will go away.’

‘The press and the Royal family are two of the most powerful institutions in this country and they will make sure your name is dragged through the dirt.’

After all, Diana, Princess of Wales, is the mother of Charles’s children, the mother of the future king. It is her ineluctable legacy.

Her legacy has shredded his dignity, questioned his integrity and provoked doubts about his sexuality.

Except that she was the most photographed person in the world and had 2.5 billion people watch her funeral. I don’t even know who the person making this comment is. It’s easy to pile on after a person is dead. But, from a Birds Eye view all these people are nothing without her. Nobody cares about them. She is the one who moved mountains and no one was beyond her reach or influence. She wasn’t out of control. I saw the interview myself. She was cool, calm, and collective. She was way much focused and determined. She gave the monarchy a punch and middle finger that they will never recover from. Charles has been left a heap trash and will always be a worthless piece of debris to his dying day. He is the destroyer of dreams, the wrecker of family, and the arrogant narcissistic unfeeling excuse for a husband.

Even Prince Charles’s former spin doctor Mark Bolland was moved to suggest, ‘If the royal family want to learn lessons from Diana it is still not too late. Why don’t they build their own memorial to her? Encourage William in some way to honour his mother’s memory in a public way?’

The truth is, as I have argued, that the Princess was leaving her demons behind and using her great gifts of empathy and communication in a worthwhile, satisfying work.

There’s more to it then that. For the zillionth time she the mother of the heir. The entire monarchy and how it operates is in the way that she imagined. As she said, she planted a seed. Her likeness, mannerisms, acts of kindness, beauty, influence grace and example of goodness are plastered all over the internet. There are many books, television, and movies about her. Her legacy is alive vibrant, and vivacious. Who cares what all these unknown talking heads have to say?