To ask a person to do more housework (or parenting) and then say “Do it the way I would do it” or “Do it the way I want you to” is a move that blocks change. If Lisa is truly ready to have Rich more involved with the housework (which means that she is willing to give up some control in this area), she must also be ready to let Rich do it his own way. If she wants him to stop underfunctioning in this area, she must be willing to stop overfunctioning.
