Do speak in “I” language. Learn to say, “I think . . .” “I feel . . .” “I fear . . .” “I want . . .” A true “I” statement says something about the self without criticizing or blaming the other person and without holding the other person responsible for our feelings or reactions. Watch out for disguised “you” statements or pseudo-“I” statements. (“I think you are controlling and self-centered.”)
