Men Have Called Her Crazy: A Memoir

by Anna Marie Tendler

in the background a TV played reruns of Blind Date, a dating game show hosted by a man with hair dyed too dark named Roger Lodge.

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In an instant someone had lost a husband or a father, a brother, or a friend. He was no doubt someone to somebody, and that somebody was about to have the worst holiday of their life. I

Strain trauma, on the other hand, happens over long periods of time, when a person is in an environment that consistently puts them in a state of anxious arousal.”

“I’m sure those things are also true. Both can be true. She can be both a good mother in some ways and a mother who created a volatile environment in other ways.”

“I believe she was doing the best she could, given the circumstances she grew up in. Her own childhood was traumatic and at times very abusive.”

Parents can be our greatest allies, they can fiercely love us, but they can also be the cause of our trauma.

evidence of trauma associated with very early childhood development. I see a preoccupation with blood, morbidity, dismissal, and power struggles. There is a way in which you present as very sturdy to the world, yet inside you are carrying an incredibly heavy weight. There is a you inside who feels invisible to those looking at you from the outside. I feel an incredible amount of compassion for how hard each day feels for you.”

God is the force within you that says ‘It’s time to make a change.’ ”

If you were wearing a Sleeping Bag Coat in the’70s or’80s, chances are you were living, and by living I mean doing drugs at Studio 54.

A little he who shall not be named in this book with this line.

You don’t have to be perfect. Sometimes the best we can do is good enough.”

This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.

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