For example, if a man tells you he needs time to sort out his feelings, turn the tables on him so to speak. Tell him you agree and nicely say, “I haven’t been too happy either, I’ll use this time to figure out what I need to be happy.” When he comes looking for you (and they always do) let it be a few weeks before he can find you. This approach tells him while he’s trying to figure out what he needs, you’re doing some discovering on your own.
