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after a breakup, expressing your feelings is the last approach you should take because during this time a man doesn’t want to hear it. There is nothing you can say that will change his mind.
he had the poor taste to break up by text we simply would choose to take the high road and not reply at all to the message.
there is a living, breathing being existing in the world who you can’t bring back or convince breaking up was a mistake. Your relationship died, and you are mourning the loss. It is perfectly reasonable to be upset.
desperate cries and pathetic pleas are the exact methods some women are reduced to after a breakup.
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“Men think with their penis, not their brain?” After a breakup, you are thinking with your heart, not your mind. Be smart and think rationally, reasonably and wisely when emotions are running rapidly. Go silent so he can’t possibly know what you are thinking. Leave him guessing.
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No Contact makes him perk up and take another look at you. Men always want what they can’t have, and for you to make him want you back, you must make him feel you are no longer his.
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men are attracted to women who possess the ability to walk away from a relationship as bees are to honey.
women fall in love and without realizing it, unintentionally begin to give too much of their heart and lose themselves in the process.
when you give too much of yourself, that’s when a relationship unravels. You’ve lost his interest. You’re no longer the sexy siren who caught his attention.
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he became bored or met someone else who provided him with the thrill of the chase.
If you set and keep your standards so high, he constantly must work to meet them. By knowing your boundaries and by refusing to accept bad behavior. By respecting yourself so much he will place you right where you belong -- on a pedestal. That’s when you’ll catch a man’s interest…and keep it. When
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no one can text faster than a pissed off woman?
He has had plenty of time to plan and prepare his exit well in advance of informing you of his decision to do so. He’s handling the breakup like a champ because he has had ample time to prepare himself mentally and to detach himself emotionally.
How men plan it ahead
No Contact means you are quietly backing off and will make no effort whatsoever to communicate with him during this time.
Women who genuinely understand their self-worth don’t pursue men. They know a man won’t value you if you immediately go into overdrive to fix a relationship after a breakup.
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If you have made desperate attempts to get him back, you need not offer any apology, explanation or excuse for your behavior. You were going through an emotional time, which is only to be expected. It just proves you loved him. By going silent, he will gradually forget about all the negative thoughts and replace them with positives ones.
Goes ghost he will forget the bad times
“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
You want a man who can handle not only the good times but the bad times as well. Rest assured, if he only wants you during the good times, you can be guaranteed he will not be there for you during the bad times.
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a man who truly loves you, cares for you and adores you will be more than willing to handle you with delicate gloves when signs of trouble arise. Men are problem solvers by nature. If they want to fix it, the real alpha male will not miss a beat coming up with ways he can fix a problem. If he wants you, he will find a way to solve a problem come hell or high water. If he wants you, there is nothing that can or will stand in his way of having you in his life. And if he can’t handle you on your bad days, then understand he is not worthy of you on your good ones. Cut him loose, fast.
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Resist the temptation to do what you want to do now, to get what you want later.
There were perks and benefits he received from you since the two of you were in an exclusive, committed relationship.
only way to make Mr. Ex miss what he had is to make him feel the lack of your presence in his life. Only when you allow him to feel the void will he get serious about getting you back and keeping you all to himself.
he could jump in his car and be next to you within twenty-five minutes if he missed you that much. Show
You must require him to do the work to get the relationship back to what it was before he sailed it off course.
By not allowing him to know where you are, what you are thinking and how you are doing, you gradually plant the seeds of insecurity and rejection he has made you feel right back to him. And to accomplish this, you must get him to feel as if you are no longer his.
Men live for the thrill of the chase. Once he got you, he may have become bored and started chasing someone else. It’s a never-ending game, so learn how to play it and have fun in the process.
Men don’t realize women don’t play hard to get when they are in love.
Facts
Often, men mistake this love for neediness when in fact you’re only trying to make a relationship work.
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it throws him off balance. He begins to think perhaps he wasn’t as important to you as he initially thought.
Now is the perfect time to reestablish the life you had before he walked into your world. Take the time to reflect on the woman you were when the two of you first met. If you let yourself go, now is the time to get back to being the woman you once were, only better.
One woman told me after her breakup; there were days the only source of comfort was her relationship with God. The only source of comfort was crawling in bed, in the fetal position, asking God to please wrap his arms around her and give her comfort and strength. Find your source of comfort and look to that source to provide it to you.
Week 1
remember always to look beautiful in case you run into Mr. Ex!
Be the lovely, unique soul God made you as. Look beautiful, and you will feel beautiful.
Elizabeth wrote after three days of not hearing from her boyfriend of two years he finally sent a text message breaking up with her. She wishes now she would have never responded, but at the time she was distraught and very emotional.
What i did to R
a breakup is tough to go through is because of the loss of feelings associated with being in a relationship. Being loved. Everyone wants to feel loved.
breakup hurt so immensely is the feeling of love Mr. Ex gave you, you aren’t giving to yourself. The confidence you derived from the feelings of being adored and cherished is no longer your reality.
“Ever notice how ‘What the hell’ is always the right answer?” Marilyn Monroe
Putting on a brave face and controlling the conflicting emotions you experience takes self-discipline, willpower, and determination. When you can take a step back to assess your feelings with an outside view, you turn the sensation from a negative to a positive.
Fake it
getting words to come out of your mouth may take effort because your heart hurts when speaking. People believe they’re having a conversation with you when you’re just nodding your head pretending to comprehend the discussion. You can barely remember their last name.
How i felt at shisha...
Staying in touch is the last thing you need to do at this point even though you feel it would provide the most comfort. It only prolongs the time it takes you to heal. Face the feelings associated with a breakup head on so you can move forward quickly.
You thought you were in a relationship meant to last. This is the time where controlling your actions and emotions are crucial. Without exercising control, you’re going to lose the battle of the breakup. You may want to withdraw from friends and family to avoid talking or even acknowledging the breakup.
“It was great while it lasted, but it was just time to go our separate ways.”
How to respond to ppl about your breakup confidently
Save your venting for close trusted friends only.
ANGER
Warnng signs you ignored
When a connection is broken, we naturally look to the men in our lives to fix it, but after a breakup, we want to plunge into repair mode. By nature, women are nurturers, and we want to nurse these problems away with all our love.
Is this true?
take it or leave it attitude.
She doesn’t ask, and she definitely doesn’t beg for a place in a man’s life. And when a man realizes she won’t be pleading for his love, it makes her more attractive in his eyes.
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If there’s a chance of making up, just sit back and let him come looking for you.
Remember when you begin to work in circles to be in a man’s life, it is because he is not pulling his weight or doing his fair share of the work to keep you around which makes you work harder. And the harder you work, the more desperate you look.
Boshi...fucking acting like a little B
great as you thought your boyfriend was at the time, I’d bet my bottom dollar you went on to date someone with better qualities, character and who was an overall better fit for you. Each breakup teaches us something more about ourselves we didn’t know. You can look at this time in your life as a growing experience, or you can allow it to disable you for years.
Better guys after every breakup
