Released: Conversations on the Eve of Freedom

by Gypsy-Rose Blanchard

When you’re groomed to believe you’re not worthy of love or even of “like,” you tend to lose yourself to people-pleasing. Narcissists prey on insecure people. Validation and love become mechanisms for control, and later, as with most childhood grooming, validation- and love-seeking patterns learned from childhood seep into adult relationships, and not just romantic ones.

Yup

Being a people-pleaser requires you to submit a part of yourself to the person you aim to please. You give up your own needs and desires, and put the person’s interests in front of your own. In return you expect a payment in the form of validation and acceptance. This kind of currency is dangerous because the cost is you.

“The cost is YOU.” Wow.

You don’t have to go beyond your mind to grow and develop self-worth; to form a secure identity. Like a flower, I can bloom where I stand.

Yes

LMAOOO real asf

I believe people are who they are because of what they’ve been through, but really because of what they’ve survived.

this is a powerful line