Being a people-pleaser requires you to submit a part of yourself to the person you aim to please. You give up your own needs and desires, and put the person’s interests in front of your own. In return you expect a payment in the form of validation and acceptance. This kind of currency is dangerous because the cost is you. After a while, you begin to be able to predict what people want to hear, so you begin to say things you don’t mean. Positive reinforcement to your people-pleasing teaches you real quick how you should act.
