“When we first began dating, he would mention incidents where women had been attacked or raped by their roommate’s boyfriends or guests, making me feel like where I lived wasn’t safe.” Roman takes a long sip of his wine, his gaze dropping to the mozzarella. “He would bring up arrests that took place close to my building, drug dens in the area… Everything that would make it sound like my only option in the world was to move into his suburb.” “With him,” Roman says.