Now, finally, the real facts and the deeper habits are clear: there is much that had never become mutual between them after all. The schedules they compulsively follow, their priorities, their instinctive value systems, the unconscious design of their days, their ways, and their space—the styles of their lives—do not yet harmonize. They entered marriage playing different tunes in different keys. And unless they rise above the noisy discord, they may feel cheated, or criticized by the differences, or imprisoned by their partner's unacceptable patterns. They may try to settle the differences by
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