Temporary lifestyles, like springs pulled out of shape, snap back to the truer and more enduring lifestyles. “Playing” ceases in the serious business of survival. Now each partner has become the other's atmosphere, the spirit and air in which the other dwells, and both are made painfully aware of their different, previously unconscious, life patterns. They marry, and what each “minds” creeps into the conversation. In fact, they were not one:
