The Perfect Affair

by Angela Henry

“It felt like a slap in the face, like everything I do for him, and our family, wasn’t good enough because it wasn’t always wrapped up in a pretty package. I’m only human. I get mad, and frustrated, and angry. I’m not always nice. I can be critical, and I complain a lot. But I’m also loving, and caring, thoughtful, and supportive, kind…”

“Cheating spouses often compare the affair partner’s best qualities to their spouse’s worst qualities and the spouse can never win. They do it to justify the affair to themselves. Often, the only way they can continue the affair is to demonize their spouse.”

“Then what do I do now?” “Be kind to yourself. What your husband did was not your fault. Put you and your children first. I won’t lie to you and tell you this is going to be easy. It isn’t. Even if you decide to forgive your husband and work on your marriage, the marriage you had before is over. You also need to prepare yourself for the possibility of a new future and a new beginning.”

This is the hardest thing to do. No relationship is the same after trust has been broken.