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Two years into this adventure, and I’m better acquainted with the couch he’s leaving behind than I am with him.
I’ve read that people who grew up in an unstable environment often seek out that unpredictability.
“Eccentric. Another word only rich people use. For the rest of us, I believe the word is nutty.”
“I agree we all spend too much time talking about how busy we are and not enough time taking care of ourselves!”
And it’s not his fault, of course, but it’s not lost on me that the very thing West has tried to distance himself from—his family—is the one thing that I always wanted.
It’s not that I was apathetic, but I hadn’t yet learned how to give names to the tension inside me.
And that’s when I force myself to stop, because what I’m truly afraid of is giving this fear a name.
It isn’t anger. It’s anguish.
I may not have the words yet for what’s going on between the two of us, but talking about the family trust opens up the trapdoor to feelings I can identify, feelings like guilt and obligation, panic and loyalty and dread.
It is the comfort of having an ally. It is the powerlessness of infatuation. It is the terrifying beginning of more.
“Whatever you’re paying, it isn’t enough for you to treat a waitress like that.”
no matter what happens tonight, it’s only a matter of time before every single person in this room leaves you, and I think you know it.”
“But you can’t buy my love. That part of me wasn’t ever for sale.
I’m the only one here offering you unconditional support and love—and I’m not even asking you to choose me. I’m asking you to choose yourself. Because they won’t.”
“When we care about someone, they deserve the benefit of the doubt. We have to consider not only what they did, but also why they did it. Intent matters,”
“I’d like to think we can make something good of it.” “I hope that includes finding a way to disconnect love from money,”
“Because even if it goes off the rails, even if everyone ends up shouting and crying and accusing, they’ll still leave at the end of the night, and we’ll still have our house and our life and this love that nobody can touch.”
“We get to decide how much of our hearts we want to give them.”
