Feeling Good: Overcome Depression and Anxiety with Proven Techniques

by David D. Burns

hot under the collar

Is my

me

obnoxious

hogwash!

take the wind out of his sails.

shoddy

So what is empathy? Empathy is the ability to comprehend with accuracy the precise thoughts and motivations

feeble

Pollyanna

flirting

unruffled

by my vigorous attempts to get her goat, and

obnoxious

getting hot under the collar

probability of getting one because your anger will have an enormous capacity to act as a self-fulfilling prophecy. In contrast, if you expect and fantasize a positive outcome and apply an upbeat approach, it will be much more likely to occur.

anger-reduction program

view this as a successful first try. Now keep working at it, using your cognitive rehearsal method, and see if you can reduce it to 50 percent and then to 30 percent. Eventually you will make it vanish altogether, or at least you will have brought it down

Remember that the wisdom of friends and associates can be a potential gold mine you can utilize when you're stuck.

They may see clearly in any area where you ha...

The events of this world don't make you angry. Your "hot thoughts" create your anger. Even when a genuinely negative event occurs, it is the meaning you attach to it that determines your emotional response.

jubilation

grappled

Oedipal

incestuous fantasies

(or that I have an evil streak,

transgression

superstitious

nihilistic

scrupulously

plagued

odious.

If, in contrast, I do not harangue myself or experience any loss of self-respect, it is easy to admit my mistake.

Then I can readily correct the problem and learn from it. The less guilt I have, the more...

counterproductive.

rampage

Incredulous?

commiseration

syllogism:

berating

tyranny

She could find a grain of truth in his arguments (the disarming technique) so as to take the wind out of his sails,

thwart

bizarre

recluse

scoff

personable

breadwinner.

plagued

he was being unrealistically hard on himself. I