There are various Mom Approaches that could theoretically be taken in an instance like this, Wounded Mom or Don’t-Take-That-Tone Mom or, a page torn from her own mother’s playbook, Mocking Mom. It’s how she, lacking instincts, navigated her life when he was a baby, a toddler, stopping and taking stock: How would a normal mom handle this? And she’d borrow whatever seemed to make the most sense and if that one didn’t work she’d try another, substitutions in a recipe.