KJ doesn’t hit me like the spouses of the women in that group do. He calls me names when he’s angry, but he doesn’t hit me. He screams in my face, but he doesn’t hit me. He smashes wine glasses, plates, and the drywall directly next to my head, but he doesn’t hit me. And maybe he’s threatened it a few times or grabbed me with enough force to leave a mark, but he still hasn’t actually hit me. I’ve been daydreaming about murdering my husband for days—surely that makes me the violent one. Right?
