It makes you feel desperate, dependent on their attention, working hard for a reward of love and attention that only comes on their terms, intermittently, and unpredictably. Many times victims think they are codependent because they act in ways that a codependent does, but the truth is that many victims I’ve met are not codependent. They have been manipulated in such a way that they behave in ways they normally wouldn’t. When they get out of these relationships and begin to see things clearly, they come back to themselves, and in fact become a much stronger version of their previous self.
