CNs, whether they are parents, spouses, or coworkers, give out the same messages: “Something is wrong with you, and you will not be able to make it in this world without me.” The covert narcissist with whom you lived or worked wanted you weak. It was the only way they could control you.
When I jettisoned religion It must have really freaked her out because she lost an area of control over me. This is why she's never been able to let that go in her mind!
She found another way to supplement it however by taking over the finances and refusing to let them go.This was another way to control me.
