It is also quite common for the victim to become responsible for everything. For instance, CNs don’t like to help around the house. They will, but the target will feel their anger and irritation. After time, the victim learns it’s just easier to do things on his or her own and to not ask for their help. The CN does not want to give in the relationship, only receive.
My CN ex was quite possibly the laziest and sloppiest person I have ever been around. Before he trapped me, he claimed to like things clean and we agreed on the level of clean. After was a very different story.
