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Debbie Mirza
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April 9 - April 9, 2022
in order to really understand the nature of the covert narcissist, you have to have lived it. Whether it’s a spouse, significant other,
It is common for people to be in romantic relationships with covert narcissists for more than 10, 20, 30, or even 40 (plus) years and not recognize the abuse they have endured for decades.
This type of abuse does not look as messy as it really is. It is so invisible it’s hard to put your finger on what is wrong.
Many people who go to therapy to get help because they are depressed, low on energy, experiencing low self-esteem, feeling a lot of anxiety, and confused have no idea that the cause of their issue is an abusive relationship, whether that is with a romantic partner, a parent, or someone at work.
A helpful thing to notice while you are trying to find answers is the fact that men and women who are with healthy people don’t enter words into online search engines such as “toxic relationships”; “energy vampires”; “mean spouses”; “confusing relationships”; “hidden abuse”; “subtle abuse”; “manipulation”; “narcissism”; “covert narcissism”; “sociopaths.” The same is true for people who are
If you are searching for answers because you feel utterly confused, you are on the right track because you’re smart. If your body feels weak and
The CN paints a false reality and says things about you that aren’t true, but you question yourself, wondering if they are right because they sound so confident and act like they know
The ironic thing is the CN usually initiates the end of the relationship, but it is often the survivor who actually files for divorce. The CN wants to be liked, to be seen as the victim, not the one who
When you live with a covert narcissist, it is common to feel let down, followed by shame for not being appreciative. There is also that hope that the person you believed loved you and should know you better than anyone else might come through for you.
