research in psychology and addiction treatment suggests that leading them to their own conclusions is more effective than hammering them with mine. Addiction treatment specialist Stanton Peele explains that telling people what to do just makes them defensive, leading them to cling to whatever they were doing instead of being open to giving it up. “People change their behavior when they sort it out in their own mind that what they’re doing violates what they care most about and what they want most for themselves,”
