I’m never more aware of what color my skin is than when people are suddenly asking me how they can be a better ally. Uh, don’t call me an Oreo or tell me I sound white like it’s impressive? Everyone wants racism to be this bomb they can disarm rather than what it is, which is … fluid. Usually it’s so small it’s not even worth explaining. And even if I could, I wouldn’t, because nobody wants to listen to the ways they failed, period, much less how they might have failed me.
