promise young men the time of their lives playing, partying, and objectifying women for their own pleasure. We girls were just trying to have a good time, too, believing we were also entitled to that, but coexisting among men never really makes that an easy journey, does it? We had to be cautious, but not too much. Be fun, but not too much. Be hot, but not too much. And despite that impossible balancing act, sometimes it still wasn’t enough to protect the women I love from getting harmed by men.