Loud: Accept Nothing Less Than the Life You Deserve

by Drew Afualo

I’d literally rather die happy and alone than die unhappily partnered

Some people may say I’m being contrarian, but I say better to be contrarian than die a thousand little deaths of disrespect.

If you’re currently single, or seeing someone but unbothered about planning a future together, instead of worrying about one day being a “leftover” woman, celebrate being left alone.

It’s normal to go through the experience of being with the wrong person. It sucks. But if you’re honest about it, the experience can offer an intense period of personal growth when you uncover who you are and how you actually want to be treated within the context of a romantic partnership.

Keep your head up and don’t be shy about calling out red flags early on in your relationship.

I’d rather stay in and do something I want to do, or hang out with friends who actually like and respect me, than go on a date with some horrible man. After all, nothing makes you lose faith in long-term heterosexual romantic companionship more than the process of dating men.

I am not lonely, I am alone. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

I prioritize my mental health in relation to both by no longer allowing myself to weigh the outcome of my accomplishments, or perceptions of my body, heavily against my self-worth.

Why do you think you aren’t worthy of the love and support you so freely give to others you care about?