With all these mixed messages,
You give me mixed messaged about what being a good woman is (focus on relations, who we are not what we do like men, competition is unfeminine, anger is unfeminine so we need to sublimate and become sly, indirect, subtle about aggresion)
You also limit me in what i can even achieve as a woman in a men's world. Theres not enough pie and my identity, not my actions are at stake for conparison and judgement, so I'm in competition with every other woman for a man, a job, being a good mother, having achieved enough.
You tell me i cant be aggresive/assertive but a) theres only 5% of jobs/good men for 50% of the population (the not enough pie of "tripping the prom queen") and b) i have to compete on every level
