any mother prefers to think of herself as “good” rather than “bad,” but the concept of “good” makes sense only when others are “bad.” So in order to secure her identity as a “good” mother, she buries her ambivalences and projects to other mothers or mothers-to-be how amazing and gratifying parenthood is. Besides, if she shares her ambivalences with mothers-to-be, the latter may be better equipped than she was to handle this huge transition.
