understanding over winning: normally, we seek to win arguments, but that framing creates a situation in which one person is bound to lose. relationships should never be about continued continued domination. it is much healthier to approach conflict with a goal of understanding. when you understand one another and can meet each other in the middle, there won’t be much left to argue about, and it becomes easier to let go of the conflict entirely. when understanding is the goal, arguments tend to be shorter and lighter. they can even foster a deeper connection.
