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be honest with yourself about where you are going how you want to feel while you are heading there and who you want to be when you arrive every moment is a destination, an opening, a space for growth the end goal should not distract you from taking each step with intention
unpopular truth: what’s meant for you will sometimes feel scary, risky, and new ease and calm don’t always mean you’re moving in the right direction the biggest rewards usually come from having the guts and perseverance to create your own path
the magic happens once you accept that you can’t regulate others’ emotions or experiences that’s when you begin to live your most authentic life some people will not “get” you, but what matters is that you get you be kind, help others, and don’t forget to live for yourself
the true freedom that comes from knowing your mind and body so thoroughly that wisdom reveals itself to you
9 things that hold great power: rest kindness meditation vulnerability healing yourself being honest with others embracing lifelong growth fostering deep connections giving without wanting in return
love is much bigger than relationships love is the way you heal yourself, the kindness you give others, the gentleness you give yourself in turbulent times, the space you hold for close friends, the intention with which you live in the present, and the energy that changes the world love is every moment that elevates the human experience and all the small things that make life shine
if you listen closely to your hurt, it will say “there is a better way than this” and all you have to do is respond “show me, i’m ready”
you have to be willing to admit when you have lost your way it is normal to lose sight of what’s important, to stumble and take a few steps backward a long journey is never a straight line gently telling yourself the hard truth is the best method for realigning and getting back on the right path
intention is one of the most powerful forces in the universe it sets actions into motion and gives them a direction words get their energy from the intention we place into them if you wa...
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it takes energy to go deep, to give someone your presence
you are nature and nature cannot help but flow at a genuine and unhurried pace. if you really want to speed things up, set goals, walk toward them without attachment, and peacefully align with actions that feed your inner harmony.
success is so subjective that if you do not develop inner peace, you can find yourself chasing after it endlessly
confusion comes from being disconnected from your intuition. learning to align with what feels right, not in the sense of following your cravings but in the sense of moving toward what supports your evolution and your highest good, is a necessary skill.
intuition is quite different from the reactive rambles of the mind or moments of emotional upheaval; while reactivity carries tension, intuition flows smoothly and steadily with information that can help you.
4 ways to remain in alignment: don’t listen to the feeling that you need to perform for others say no to situations that burn way too much of your energy surround yourself with people who love the authentic you let your intuition guide you, not your fears or cravings
when you decide to let yourself feel, unbind, and let go, you naturally start receiving life with gentler hands.
during the journey a lot of learning can happen; taking in new experiences and data should inspire you to reassess your strategy so you can be more effective.
if you take mindful steps that align with your values, intentionally treating yourself and others compassionately, then you will undoubtedly end up in a good place.
our society glorifies speed, big leaps forward, and meteoric rises, but reality usually moves at a slower pace, especially when it comes to personal transformation. not every day needs to involve a “big win” for you to end up in a thriving and beautiful place.
being attached to perfection or pleasure can limit your ability to be vulnerable with yourself and other people, because you’d rather be immersed in something that is pleasant. anything pleasant is incredibly temporary and will leave you with an unquenchable thirst for more.
happiness is a product of equanimity, meaning mental balance and the ability to be calmly objective. from this space of clarity and composure, the real essence of happiness can develop, which is inner peace. a type of peace that is not controlled or defined by external events, one that can move with the waves of life without getting overwhelmed
take responsibility for your healing. love yourself so deeply that you feel at home in your own body and mind.
saying less is incredibly helpful not every thought is valuable not every feeling needs to be voiced what is often best is to slow down and spend time developing a clearer and more informed perspective ego rushes and reacts, but peace moves purposefully and gently
take a moment to be grateful to your old self for getting you this far
an attachment to control essentially comes from having a bad relationship with change
teaching your mind to ponder more about the reality of change will release some of the shock that comes when things actually do change in your life. understanding that change is inevitable will help you recognize that everything has a time limit, which ultimately encourages you to be more present when you are doing things that bring you joy or when you are around the ones you love.
every moment has potential, and that potential is defined by how we arrive into it. our minds have the power to turn a moment that might easily have been forgotten into something awe-inspiring and positively life-changing.
happiness is not: perfection, control, or determined by external events and people. happiness is: a product of your perception and inner balance. when you define your own energy, you bring your harmony with you wherever you go.
remember, no one can feel your heart better than you can
when you are in a tense mood, question the assessments and judgments you are making. you know from past experience that heavy emotions negatively color your view. this is not the time to make big decisions.
you need your own definition of happiness one that reconnects you with the beauty of where you are now and does not postpone your joy until you accomplish something in the future one that is centered on embracing and not striving
all that we know in daily life is animated by the undercurrent of change. change creates the space where mind and matter come together to construct the illusion of self. it allows for endless possibilities and ensures the deterioration of each new combination.
the highest levels of happiness are not available unless you exist in harmony with the truth of change, and that requires you to become more flexible with your idea of who you are and what you desire.
mold your life in the ways that you can, especially when it comes to your own actions, but do not lean on control as a way to heal or misconstrue it as a method for joy.
healing is based on compassionately communicating with yourself; this skill transforms the way you approach your connections
11 relationship goals: act as a team no manipulation honest communication handle conflict peacefully make time to relax together share decision-making power create space for vulnerability find joy in each other’s happiness be open about your fears and goals let your healing deepen your connection try to understand each other’s perspective
in what areas of your life do you find yourself clinging to control?
what can you currently do to love yourself better? in what ways have you been living intentionally recently?
the friends who truly make time for you are worth more than a thousand acquaintances.
you more easily connect with joy and happily use boundaries to protect your well-being. the healing is real when your mind feels lighter and loving yourself comes more naturally.”
you may feel aversion to someone because of something they did to you, but feeling that same intensity toward them repeatedly, long after the incident has passed, does more damage to you than to them. if the simple thought of them makes your mind react with heaviness and repugnance, that means you are giving them too much of your mental space.
tell your partner when you feel internally rough and pay attention to the way temporary emotions impact the narratives in your mind
a love that lasts is a love that welcomes vulnerability and imperfection.
double down on love not the superficial love that ignores reality or history, but the real love that is ready to move mountains the type of love that is not afraid of action, change, or personal growth the type of love that wants the best for all people, including yourself
find the balance between staying committed to your evolution and taking time off from continuously advancing to new levels
making time for integration makes lifelong growth more sustainable
don’t let an unclear path discourage you from taking steps into the unknown. the greatest you arises when you begin to embrace the space beyond your comfort zone.
you don’t need to have all the answers right now to eventually be successful. you just need to be willing to take one step at a time. embrace the challenge. remember how strong you are and how much you have already overcome.
as the wisdom within you matures, it becomes easier to let go, to stop fighting yourself, and to move with nature instead of against it
if you are stuck in a defensive mode, your mind will view things through the fearful lens of survival the key to arriving in the present and breaking with the past is to slow down breathe think act
