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We are all gonna change. Excitement to keep learning about something/ someone keeps life vibrant.
everything has a time limit,
when you are in a tense mood, question the assessments and judgments you are making.
you know from past experience that heavy emotions negatively color your view. this is not the time to make big decisions.
it is possible to view others without judgment, to see them through a lens of acceptance,
a red flag is when you keep trying to find a middle path but you repeatedly end up with less than what is reasonable
listening selflessly:
understanding over winning:
relationships should never be about continued
domination.
It should rather be delegations for both partners to take charge & accepting each other’s space & energy
supporting each other’s power:
sharing power is critical to creating a harmonious environment in which trust can flourish.
being able to live
in your power creates the sense of freedom that we all need to...
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what worked before may not work well now because you have both grown so much
be honest about what you need so you can create a more nourishing union
You gotta identify your needs, be honest about it & communicate your needs clearly to your partner. Sometimes you tend to get lost in life, trapped in reality for have self reflection moments & realize what you need.
what makes breakups harder than they need to be is our tendency to get stuck in imagining the past and craving what is no longer there. the only way forward is to keep bringing yourself back to the present moment.
For me, it is getting stuck in flushes of endless emotions
work on your self-love: give yourself what you have been seeking from others; feed your needs; connect with good friends and find joy in the small moments of life. self-love is especially important because it is a gateway to letting go of the past.
build new habits that align you with a more fulfilling life.
you just need your own self-love and acceptance to let it go
refusing to give your temporary feeling an unjustified narrative or any control is a powerful way to love someone well
relationships
they go through seasons in a way that propels your personal growth.
relationships built on beauty and lust do not have the foundation for a long-lasting union.
part of loving a partner well is getting to know the new aspects of their personality as they emerge.
(conscious love)
complementing each other’s qualities in a way that helps both of you shine brighter is an immense gift.
love’s closest synonym is freedom,
love needs space to stretch, expand, and flow.
love between two people does require a middle ground where both can meet,
attachments cannot provide this space because they are far too rigid.
calm communication and voluntary commitments.
emotional maturity is: feeling tough emotions without feeding them or projecting your tension onto others
the connection brings you together, but the emotional maturity is what makes it work
11 personal commitments:
“when your mind is no longer governed by the past and when you feel peace in situations where you used to feel tension. you more easily connect with joy and happily use boundaries to protect your well-being. the healing is real when your mind feels lighter and loving yourself comes more naturally.”
trauma reacts; intention responds
Your reactions indicate how deep in the past you ar holding on to
persistence is your greatest asset in your transformational quest.
jealousy is the ego’s insecurity
ego does not enjoy evolution, it prefers sameness and control
boundaries are not about being overly strict or mean; they are about using your awareness of what is genuinely good for you to build a sanctuary that supports your growth.
you are stuck in a defensive mode, your mind will view things through the fearful lens of survival
This explains why people behave certain ways that they do. Meaning, I cannot always judge people right away from the 1st time. Be patience, take time to vet to know and understand them before I judge. I cannot be in their shoes to understand what someone has gone through.
to let go is to literally release old parts of ourselves.
being able to release our attachment to who we used to be.
“you are the key to your healing, not time.
I have met people whom deny to work on themself internally so they end up with wounds from years to years and unable to live freely. I, myself once was. "Everything has an expired date", use it wise.
say yes to the hard things that make you better diligently build the habits that set you free
unapologetically create a life of your own design
People pleasure needs to understand that creating your own life design is a normal thing. Do not let guilts & fears step in your way of creating beauty in life.
live with presence live intentionally
