Building a Non-Anxious Life

by John Delony

The first thing to go is our boundaries. We quit critically thinking for ourselves and outsource our thoughts and feelings to others who don’t have our best interests at heart.

The problem is that we are unsafe, disconnected, unhealthy, and living like we have no say in what happens next.

We have more “understanding” than ever before, yet collectively we’re more anxious and burned out than we’ve ever been.

Anxiety is generally your body’s way of trying to take care of you and get your attention.

Anxiety is not a disease. It’s just your body trying to get your attention.

Discipline is critical. Hard work is a must. And personal growth is very important. But personal growth makes a terrible god. In our obsession with ourselves, our body sounds the alarms.

A peaceful life isn’t drama-free or pain-free. A peaceful life refers to how you’re able to handle things when they do indeed fall apart.

“Behavior is a language.

The first choice toward building a non-anxious life is honesty. Honesty with yourself and with others. You must Choose Reality.

“Far too many people don’t have a backup plan because they refuse to consider that something might not go exactly as they wish.”

Choosing reality is about taking an inventory of the challenges in your life, your relationships, your family, your place in the world—and being honest about where you are versus where you wanted to be.

Choosing reality is also about taking an inventory of the good things in your life and being honest about how you ignore the good stuff and instead spend time worshiping the negative, soulless, ugly stuff.

One aspect of the anxious lives we’ve created for ourselves stems from our obsession with avoiding discomfort.