The more we are aware of our expectations, the more we see that our urge is to manipulate life rather than live it just as it is. Students whose practice is maturing aren’t angry as often because they see their expectations, their desires, before they produce anger. But if the stage of anger is reached, it is practice. Our signal to practice, our “red light,” is at the point of upset, the disappointment. “It’s not the way I want it!” Some expectation has not been fulfilled and we sense the irritability, frustration, the desire to have it otherwise. “I want” has been frustrated. This very point
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